Thanks to kel, I read an email from -p, and I couldn't help thinking of Groucho Marx. Here is the quote that made me laugh:
"The student was telling me to shut up. My reputation is not very good and I basically have no authority; they all know now that I am a lesbian ( I told them the first time in a taxi in Hanoi, and it caused a lot of consternation), and now they say I have a dykish hair style; last night, when I offered one of the students to marry me, so that I could get the green card, he said that it would happen "only over his dead body", to which I responded 'cool, I am a necrophiliac', so I am a necrophiliac lesbian now. Today I also told them I was a feminist."